Kudozi

Kudozi Guide

Non-monetary rewards children can work towards

A good reward is something a child values and a family can comfortably provide. It does not need a price tag.

Published 14 September 2026 · General guidance for parents and carers

Rewards can recognise extra effort, help a new routine feel achievable or give a child something enjoyable to anticipate. Money and bought treats are only two possibilities. Choice, attention, responsibility and time together can be just as meaningful.

Begin with what your child actually enjoys

Ask for ideas rather than guessing. A younger child might value choosing the bedtime story, while an older child might prefer control of the family playlist or a little extra time for a favourite activity. Keep the options within boundaries you are happy to honour.

Everyday choices

• Choose the family film or board game.
• Pick the music in the car or during dinner.
• Choose Friday's pudding or weekend breakfast.
• Select the route for a family walk.
• Choose which parent or carer reads the bedtime story.

Time and attention

• One-to-one baking, drawing or building time.
• A trip to the park, library or playground.
• Stay up a little later on an agreed non-school night.
• Invite a friend for an activity, when practical.
• Plan a family picnic or games afternoon.

Choice and responsibility

• Be the family quizmaster.
• Help plan a meal or outing.
• Use a special chair or cup for the day.
• Choose a small family challenge.
• Take responsibility for a valued household role.

Small rewards and bigger goals

Keep frequent rewards simple and save larger experiences for longer goals. Make the requirement and reward clear in advance. If circumstances change, explain that honestly rather than quietly moving the finish line.

Keep the important things unconditional

Affection, attention, meals, rest, safety and a child's place in family life should never depend on earning points. Choose optional treats, choices and experiences as rewards, while keeping everyday care and connection outside the system.

Keep recognition bigger than the points

A score can make progress visible, but it should not replace a thank-you, a smile or specific praise. NHS guidance notes that attention, hugs, smiles and specific praise can all recognise positive behaviour. Different children respond differently, so notice what feels encouraging rather than assuming one system suits everyone.

Where Kudozi fits

A reward in Kudozi is something a child chooses to request with Kudos they have already earned. The optional First things first setting is different: it reveals a simple family privilege once the day's expected tasks are complete. Keeping those ideas separate helps everyday responsibility, extra effort and rewards remain easy to understand.

Sources and scope

• NHS: dealing with child behaviour problems. Covers praise, attention and rewards after an agreed action.
• Raising Children Network: pocket money. Explains that families take different approaches to chores and money.

This is general information, not individual parenting or medical advice. Choose rewards that are safe, appropriate and realistic for your own child and family.